Women need to be more proactive when it comes to dating. For those of us who are still unmarried here at BYU, it is usually the guy who does the asking and planning of a date. I have gone on many dates myself and consider myself an attractive guy, yet with all these dates only once has the girl asked me. This is mostly caused by the traditions of our society. Men have always been the ones to court the women. However it is the 21st century now, women are supposed to be equal to men. If a woman doesn’t take equal responsibility when it comes to dating, when that couple gets married she won’t have equal responsibilities with her husband. I have 5 sisters and have had many female friends so I like to think that I know a thing or two about women. From all the girls that I have ever talked to they all would rather be asked out than have to do the asking out. And then when guys do not ask them out they complain about how they don’t go on any dates. Our ward had a combined FHE a few months ago discussing this very subject. It seemed that most of the girls in my ward concluded that if they were not going on dates it was the guys in our ward who were at fault. My roommates and I left not very pleased with what was said because we do ask girls out on dates and never get asked out ourselves. To girls who want to go on more dates, you need to do the asking. Guys may be shy, immature, or just apathetic towards dating and there is nothing you can do about that. What you can do is encourage guys to date by being an example. I think if girls did this then guys would start asking more too, however I have very little faith that girls will actually do this so I have another solution. I propose that all single men at BYU should boycott dating until women start asking us out on dates. This may seem like a drastic measure but I believe it is the only way to change things. For those of you girls who disagree with me you can prove me wrong, show me that girls can ask guys on dates.
Friday, January 18, 2008
The Man's Job?
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Agreed. It would just make things so much easier.
That is not what Elder Tingey said on Sunday! This has been and will always be the man's job!
You may think you know a thing or two about girls, but really you don't. I agree with foxy, it is now and will always be the man's responsibility.
You made a very good argument, but having girls ask takes the fun out of asking them yourself.
Although I have been on many dates where the girl has asked me out, the most fun dates I’ve had are the ones where I did the asking and the planning. Some things can get confusing when the girl asks you out on a date. Who is going to drive? Am I still supposed to pay? I think the traditional system works just fine and guys just need to have guts. It is the 21st century and women are equal to men in many respects, but that does not mean that they need to become men. In ballroom dancing the man and the woman are equally important, but they have different roles; the man leads and the lady follows. The boys at BYU just need to become men and learn to lead.
I agree with foxy too! Guys totally need to take initiative and do the asking. The First Presidency has emphasized this MANY times. Obviously once a couple is coming closer to the marriage stage the girl will feel more comfortable to ask the guy out as well, BUT when in the dating stage, it is the guy's sole responsibility!
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